Marwaris over generations refined their code of hospitality. Together referred to as Manwar, A way of treating other Marwadi’s (usually over meals).
However, over the years it has eroded:
- From a massive thali where 6 or more individuals sat snugly around on the floor to relish their meal to dining at a table with individual plates.
- Ghee was a matter of pride for the host (The cups of ghee per dish ratio was unbelievable! Your average khichadi would turn moonstone white!) and now its dwindled to an occasional teaspoon!
- From the host generously offering the guest with all his heart multiple times (3 was a minimum) it has been degraded to a situation where refusing is taken personally by the host. Usually leading to an uncomfortable tussle or food being wasted.
The young Marwadi is abandoning this tradition by the truckload!
I have loved it over the years and it saddens me that I am witnessing its slow but steady demise.
Yet, I believe it could be revived. More on this on the next blog.